By Rachel Morales, Executive Director
I recently came across a video on Instagram that made me pause. It featured a young woman—probably in her mid-20s to early 30s—expressing frustration over how difficult it was to find a “liberal” boyfriend, one who shared her left-leaning political views. The clip was stitched with a joking reply: “Just join a local women’s sports league and the leftist men will find you there.”
It was funny, sure. But it also left me thinking.
Why is it becoming harder for people to find meaningful relationships—especially with someone who shares their values? Why do so many young adults feel isolated, lonely, or like something is missing in today’s world?
The answer may lie, in part, in a long-ignored consequence of legalized abortion.
The People Who Never Had a Chance to Exist
Abortion has been legal in the U.S. for over 50 years. That’s over five decades of missing lives—millions of babies who never had the chance to grow up, fall in love, start families, or contribute to their communities.
What struck me about the video is that this young woman may very well be searching for a man who, quite literally, was never born. The potential boyfriend, the best friend, the soulmate, the one who might’ve changed everything for her—what if he was among the millions of children aborted in the last few decades?
And ironically, if she holds pro-choice views herself, it’s possible she unknowingly supports the very system that made that loss possible.
Abortion’s Impact Reaches Further Than We Think
Pro-choice arguments often zero in on the immediate situation: a woman’s autonomy, her goals, her current challenges. These aren’t unimportant. But rarely do we stop to consider the long-term effects of widespread abortion on society as a whole.
We now live in a nation with a rapidly declining birth rate. According to a July 2025 Statista report, “Over the past 30 years, the birth rate in the United States has been steadily declining, and in 2023, there were only 10.7 births per 1,000 people.” That’s one of the lowest in modern history.
This drop isn’t just a statistic—it’s a warning bell. A declining birth rate leads to:
- A shrinking workforce
- An aging population
- Heavier economic burdens on fewer people
- And yes—fewer people to form relationships with
When we eliminate millions of people from the next generation, we don’t just lose potential labor or tax revenue. We lose future friends, mentors, teachers, spouses, pastors, inventors, and artists. We lose the people we were supposed to live life alongside.
A Crisis of Connection
We’re also facing what many experts are calling a loneliness epidemic. More young adults than ever before report feeling isolated and hopeless. When you couple that with fewer births, an overworked population, and a culture increasingly disconnected from family and community, it becomes clear that the emotional toll is real—and growing.
It’s easy to brush off relationship struggles or social disconnection as “just life in the modern world.” But what if this isn’t just an unfortunate side effect of technology or politics? What if it’s a direct result of choices we’ve made as a society—specifically, our choice to devalue life at its earliest and most vulnerable stage?
Rebuilding a Culture of Life
This isn’t about shaming women or making light of difficult circumstances. It’s about honestly acknowledging that choices made today have consequences for tomorrow.
If we want a world that is full of connection, opportunity, and love, we must build that world on a foundation that values every human life. That includes the unborn.
We can’t afford to keep thinking only in terms of the “here and now.” We must also think generationally. The lives we protect today are the relationships, communities, and legacies we’ll depend on tomorrow.
Because if we don’t, we may wake up one day—like that woman in the video—wondering why no one is left to love.